A very dull week has this been to
me nothing going on ---- and one day would be a ---- of them all so I will only
say that I praticed, worked, Wednesday evening went to hear George Clark sing.
Thursday went to singing school. Very few there. I did not even bow to Moses.
Sunday, November 4, 2012
Thursday, October 25, 2012
February 13th 1859
Sunday Feb 13th 1859
Monday I had the tooth ache all
night and it still continued to do so but I helped Ma wash notwithstanding. In
the evening Mr Oslow Beebee and Lady Lib Cox and son Link, Carrie and Andrew and
Julia Tuttle came. We all went up to the lecture but did not stay but a few
minutes. Tuesday I made cake in the morning. In the Afternoon Maggie Richardson
and Mother came to spend the afternoon. Mr? Judd and Lady called in the evening
and we went up to the lecture. I shall remember May’s remarks some time.
Wednesday made cake in the morning, had two calls. Charlie Cook came to see me,
quite excited for fear I thought he could not get anyone to go with him. I had
just succeaded in calming his agitated mind when I had another call another.
Charlie wanted to me to go to the mite? Society but I declined on the plea of
ill health. Jane Sherman called this afternoon and in the evening I was
left alone as Allie went over to the mite Society. Thursday went to singing
school. In the evening Mose and Joe were there. Jo came home with Allie but Moses
did not have anything to say to me. Must think I care a great deal whether he
ever makes up again or not. If he does not then I am well, out of it better then I
expected to be for I did not intend to go with him much longer anyway and if he
is the one to get mad so much the better for he will not know but what I
intended always to be: good friends with him. But I very much fear if it had gone
along two months longer, which is as long as I should have gone with him anyway,
there would have been a good many hard feelings on his part. Friday we had our
party. Mose brought Josie all night. I believe it is the very best thing which could have happened only it
places me in rather a bad situation. Just now as I have nobody to go with.
Saturday we worked all day putting things to rights again. Sunday went to church
twice to our church and in the evening to the methodice. Also wrote a short note
to Moses.
Saturday, October 20, 2012
February 6th 1859
Henrietta Feb 6th 1859
Last Sunday night Allie and I
went over to meeting. Joseph and Moses were there. Moses was setting on his
dignity and so we did not speak. Joseph came home with Allie. Monday we stayed at
home and practiced. Tuesday Allie went to the city. In the evening we went up to
hear George Washington L. Clark lecture. All his audiance went to sleep or
whispered. Our two friends kept driving round the yard and stopping at the steps.
Wednesday night we went over to Josie’s to visit with Jo R- and Maggie. Thursday
night we went over to singing school. Joseph and Moses were there. Moses gave me
a very distant bow and I had to come home with Jo and Allie. Jo gave Allie and I
an invitation to go to Helen Pike’s party the next night and to go down to
their house the next day. Friday we went down to Richardson’s and spent the day.
In the evening we went to Pike’s. Moses came alone. He danced awhile opposite me and
then asked me to dance with him. He was as good as could be. Asked me if we could
not be friends any more, so we made up as good friends as ever and even a little
better than usual. Had a very pleasant party though there was some there I did
not fancy. Saturday stayed at home. I was almost tired to death as I danced most
every set and it was twenty minutes to four when we got home. We called at the
doctors, found Mrs Johnson (Manda Harmon) and husband there. Called also at Mrs
Gooding Then called on Mrs Halsey. Willie** came up to night to stay over Sunday
with us. Sunday went to church all day and over to the Methodice in the evening.
Nobody there I cared about seeing but as I am very sleepy like ---- I must very
good night
**Either her cousin or nephewWednesday, October 17, 2012
January 30th 1859
Henrietta Jan 30th
1859
A bright beautiful sabbath
morning. The mud is all froze up although we do not have any snow yet. Monday
evening we attended the Temperance meeting. Joseph and Moses came home with us
of course. Mose severed his visitation to go to Calvin’s and asked me if I had
any objections to his taking Josie Smith. Of course I had not, as Josie and I
were very good friends, but the more I thought about it the more I became convinced that Josie had the first
visitation and he visited me because he felt under obligations to, especially
after what Jo R- said last Wednesday. So I told Allie very positively that if
any one else asked me I should go with them and if they did not anyone else ask
me I should stay at home. But she [Allie] said she would go but if she was me she would
go with somebody else. After she got there I fineally got ready to go, but when
Jo came after her I was undesided whether to go or not. But they said they would
not go a step unless I would promise to come with Mose, so after a while I told
them I would. So they went telling me if I did not come with Mose they should
come back after me. Very very cold was I when Mose did come. Never once
did I speak to him except to answer his questions going down. But he seemed to
feel bad so I went up stairs in a repentant mood, resolving to make up on one condition which was whether he
asked me or Josie to dance the first set. Well when the time came he came up to
Josie and I with George De Witt. I understood him to speak to Josie so I thought
we can never be friends. But Josie told me to go when I looked up in some
surprise and inquired if he spoke to me in my heart. I was very very glad but
some of the old spirit prompted me not to let him know it, but to punish him yet
more. I saw that he was angry and that he thought I asked so on purpose when he
asked me to dance, but in that at least I was blameless. Still I was very silent.
He did not ask me to dance again. I saw he did not intend to so I told him I had
something to say to him. So we sit down in a corner by ourselves and talked. We
were both angry, though I was half penitent. We finally partley settled it and I
was on my good behavior. Wednesday evening Allie and I went over to the mite?
Society at Mr Worthingtons. Jo R and Abb C- came.
Jo said that Mose was over to the store but would not come. I though[t] perhaps
there is two reasons why he would not. Spent a very pleasant evening. Thursday we
went over to *Josephine’s. Went down and visited the school. I came back with
Marve? and Allie as Josie went to singing school. Mose was not there either. I
guess he has made up his mind to go nowhere I am. Friday Josie asked us over there to make
molasses candy, had a real pleasant time. Friday and Saturday evenings expected
Mose but was disapointed. To day I have been to church all day and this evening
we are going to Methodice meeting. If anything unusal should happen it would be
quite a change for me. Took **Jenny to church to day. We a great time first I took
her up gallery then she cryed so I carried her down to me Ma and sailed back.
Then she cryed again so Allie promanaded out with her and back again.
*Mary's sister
**Josephine's daughter, Mary's niece.
Friday, October 12, 2012
January 23rd 1859
Sunday Jan 23rd 1859
**Editor's Note: According to Mary's daughter, Bertha, he became an expert on the subject of bees and contributed much on the subject.
This week Allie and I have had
something to fret about all the week. Monday morning Pa discovered that he had
lost a hive of bees** and suspicion pointed very strongly to the Acadamy boys but
after trying all day nothing could be found out, although no one doubted but
what they could have told where the honey went to in the evening. Decker and
Green called on us, came about five o clock and stayed till nine. Em Hocomb sent
over after them. It seems that Miss Emily had a party and Ell Calvin would give
her no peace until she sent for Decker. We spend a very pleasent evening. Tuesday
evening Trenchard and Carney? spent the evening. They invited us to go to West
Henrietta with them Thursday night. We told them we were partly engaged. Just after we went to bed
we heard a great noise as If somebody ran across the walk and the next morning
Ann? said that three fellows came up the walk and looked into the windows and
then ran and that they looked very much like Jo , Mose, and M--- Neely. I hope
they felt paid for their trouble. Wednesday evening Jo R- and Mose came to see
us, was very curious that we should go over to West Henrietta and gave us an
invitation to go down to Calvin’s Friday.
Allie gave them something of a talking to and told them we were very
accommodating and we would go [to] Jack at a pinch. They stayed until eleven. Thursday we teased Ma, all to no purpose, to let us go to dancing school. So we
finally went to singing school. Dora was over but Josie was not there. Wonder if
she did not go over to the dance. Friday night there was a party over to Otis’s
so the party down to Calvin’s was postponed. Joseph came in the afternoon to
tell us of the change so we stayed at home for one evening but we felt very lonesome. Saturday
evening we went over to the Methodise prayer meeting. No on there hardly to day.
We went to quarterly meeting and listened to Rev Mr George. There was a good
many there, had a very good sermon to night. We are going to hear him again and
this ends another week and I ask myself as the gathering gloom of night draws
around me have I done any good this past week. I am afraid not. God grant that I
may in the coming one.
Wednesday, October 10, 2012
January 16, 1859
Sunday Jan 16th 1859
I have come to the to the
conclusion that I will comence and let nothing prevent my writing once a week.
At least this year the first I wrote bears date Aug 8th 1856 most
(almost) thrice years ago. Many the changes since then. Monday night Allie and I
went up to the temperance meeting. Jo R- was there. He said Mose had come back
but I could hardly believe it. Decker came home with me. We walked down the road
as far (as) Aunt Debbie’s and came back home I was very glad. Mose had come back
for reason that I mentioned before. Wednesday the ---- Society met at our house.
There was a good many here both Afternoon and evening, Among others Mose and Jo
R-. The first time I had seen Mose to speak to him since
he came back although in the morning Allie called to me to come and see if it
was not Jo and him going by, so we stood in the window in rather dishabille [disheveled] looking with all there
our eyes when they happened to look
up and see us we made ourselves scarce very suddenly. Mose went to Port Byron. He
says Ellen? Clapp is dead and Late Quackenbush is married but he was very cross
and was as mad at me as could be for which he assigned as reason that I thought
more of Marshal Decker than anybody else in the world. But I can hardly believe
that is the reason, it is so very silly. Thursday night we went up to the Academy
to an oyster supper and danced till twelve, had a very nice time indeed. I expect
Mose will be worse than ever, we went with Decker. Friday went over to Josie’s to
an Oyster supper, had a pleasant time. In the evening called on Mr Chapin.
Saturday call at Mrs Worthingtons, had a great deal to say about the
dance at the Academy or as she styled it "the ball". She did not make much out
of us. Today we have been to church all day.
Monday, October 8, 2012
January 9th 1859
Sunday Jan 9th 1859
I will pass over the time spent in putting things to rights,
the singing schools, lectures calls – – as I cannot remember them all but will
only say they were spent in the same way. Jo and Mose coming home with Allie and
I then next thursday night after the fire I had another little niece little
Allie Louise a week ago. Last Thursday night Mose and Jo Smith were both at
singing school and both started to come and see me but Mose got the start so Jo
went back. Mose was going to Saracuse the next Saturday but said said he would come and see me the next night if he possiably
could but told me not to expect him as he might not be able to come. But I told
him if he did not come I should think it because he did not wish to. He said
"could you think, Mary, I did not wish to come as much as I love you" but he
did not come. Although he did not bid me good bye. Jo Smith also was to start for
Michagan the next Monday. I have seen nobody since to ask whether he went or not.
I have a dim rememberance of writing some time back something about Dee. I will
now say what I meant as Dee is passed and nothing has happened. I concluded by
Harvey's manouvering that he has made up his mind that Charlie Lindsey should
flirt with me when he came home. While I made up my mind if he tried that game
he would find himself checkmated, though I dont know but what it is vain for me
to think so, yet I never tried to make myself agreeable to
anyone (particularly so I mean) that I did not succead. But Charlie is come and
gone without coming to see me, but I have an idea that I was not mistaken after
all but that his stay was so short and Harve being gone he could not make it
work. Willie S- said beware of a wolf in
sheeps clothing and I have done so. Harve used to say and still says he can read
me like a book. He knows me as well as he does himself ,though it was so once it
is so no longer. I am as false as he is and he knows nothing of when? I think I
had forgotten to mention he is married. I have a great many thoughts of what I
will do in the future but I say nothing now to anyone so I will not even write
them for fear I shall not make things come as I wish yet I will say I will
never marry until I have found some one who I think will be as smart, of as good
family and who will be able to give me as good a home as he took me from. And I will
not live either with his folks or mine. I am not romantic and I have my two
sisters example so I do not think I will take up with any less that there
things.
Wednesday, October 3, 2012
January 8th 1859
Saturday Jan 8th 1859
I can scarsely believe it possiable on turning to my Diary
to find that it is over a month since I have written a word. But it has been a
busy month to me. Just two weeks after we went to Newton's several weeks after
George Halsey's party and a year since the part over to Quimby's, we went over
to Ladds. I with Moses and Allie with Jo. We all went together. Jo Smith brought Agnes. He asked me to dance with him. He says to me as we
stood on the floor together,"I am not happy to night Mary. I can never see you
more except as we meet so for every time I see you I love you more". I talked to
him kindly but as I would to anyone on indifferent subjects. I saw that he was
disapointed but I thought it was for the best. He kept watch of me every time I
spoke to Mose. I had a very pleasant time. Long shall I remember a talk I had up
on the ---- . Monday morning after it we we awoke by crys of "fire" and spring [out] of
our bed half awake. We found the **Hotel afire. Allie had some idea of going to
over to awake her father and Willie before she dressed herself for fear they
would burn up, but finally dressed ourselves and went over to Josie's and began
to carry out things as they said the whole of that street would go. The wind
blew so strong that way. After carring [carrying] out all of the things the wind
changed, so they were able to save the house but in less than an hour all that
belonged to Mr White were burned up. After consoling poor Mrs White and looking
at the fire we came home, climbing over furniture to get there and then climbing
over a medley of things, poured on the floor to find a seat to wait for light
enough to come to see to carry things back again.
**Editor's note: Mary wrote at the top of the page "Josie lived on Corner across from hotel"
December 6th 1858
Sunday Dec 6th 1858
Last Monday attended Mr Giletts lecture on astronomy, went
with Jo- and Allie, Julia and Elliot Tattle, and Carrie called on us before the
lecture. Wednesday night went to another of the course, came home very
independantly alone because I would not come with Allie and J-. Tuesday evening
went over to Mr Whites and played for them all the evening. Mr Harte? came home
with us. Thursday evening Decker called on us and we went up to singing school.
Mose and Jo came home with us. Friday night went to the lecture. Mose and Jo
spent the evening after the lecture with us. Saturday evening there [was] another
lecture by Enoch Williams but Allie and I concluded we did not want to go. Today
it has rained all day most and as Ma was sick we all stayed at home. But I am so
tired of haveing nothing to do that I shall go another time. Report say's Harvey is going to
be married soon next week. I believe to look at my first writings in this book
anyone might think that prehaps I would regret it, but it is not so. Of all of
his friends I would be the first to wish it was so. A strange thing is the human
heart. His is [a] very deceitful one. I have learned to know him well in the last
year and it has not improved him very much in my opinion.
Tuesday, October 2, 2012
November 28th 1858
Nov 28th 1858
It is a week to day since I wrote before. Monday I was nineteen. In the evening I went to the Lecture with Moses, Allie with Joseph. But when we got up there Joseph said he should not go in and as M always does as he does, we went in alone and left them on the steps . They came in in a few minutes looking very sheepish. I had quite a time telling Mose he was ashamed of me. They came in and staid till twelve making up. I shall remember shadow's on the wall some time- first advances to a reconcitation [reconciliation] – – Wednesday night went to singing school. Josie, Dora, Jo, Greeny?, Marie and George were there. Of our far off friends, J- and M- came home with us. Thursday night singing school again. Again J- + M- came home with us. Friday night went over to the --fair with Link. By it was a regular Arab street bass? I had some fun talking with George Hodges. Saturday night Jo S- made me a visit he said he should not come to see me again untill he had learned to think of me only as a friend, that he loved me better the more he saw of me. To day I have been to church half a day and slept the other half.
It is a week to day since I wrote before. Monday I was nineteen. In the evening I went to the Lecture with Moses, Allie with Joseph. But when we got up there Joseph said he should not go in and as M always does as he does, we went in alone and left them on the steps . They came in in a few minutes looking very sheepish. I had quite a time telling Mose he was ashamed of me. They came in and staid till twelve making up. I shall remember shadow's on the wall some time- first advances to a reconcitation [reconciliation] – – Wednesday night went to singing school. Josie, Dora, Jo, Greeny?, Marie and George were there. Of our far off friends, J- and M- came home with us. Thursday night singing school again. Again J- + M- came home with us. Friday night went over to the --fair with Link. By it was a regular Arab street bass? I had some fun talking with George Hodges. Saturday night Jo S- made me a visit he said he should not come to see me again untill he had learned to think of me only as a friend, that he loved me better the more he saw of me. To day I have been to church half a day and slept the other half.
Monday, October 1, 2012
November 21st 1858
Nov 21st 1858
Friday I attended Mrs Beebee's funeral. The sermon was be
[by] Mr. Worthington assisted by Mr. Judd and Mr. Me? Gessold. Mr. A. J. Warner took
charge of the singing . In the evening, Allie and I went up to the Lecture, met Jo
R- in the hall and went and took a walk. Harvey and Jo R came home with us. They
came in a [and] made us quite a visitation. Harvey is trying to do something but
I have not yet made up my mind what that something is. But of one thing I am
quite sure: he is deceitful and cannot be a very good friend to any girl. Of the
boy's, I cannot say.
Saturday, September 29, 2012
Thanksgiving, November 18th 1858
Thursday Nov 18th 1858 Thanksgiving
It is some time since I have written but there has been a good deal of change in this short time since I wrote last. There has been a bridal and one who then was in the full enjoyment of health has sicknened and died. To morrow the grave will close over all that remans (remains) of Mrs Elenore Beebee. She leaves a large circle of friends to mourn her loss. Last night we were invited to Laura's. Unfair but it was postponed on account of Mrs Beebee's death. Singing school has comenced again and we have a lecture by Mr Gillet twice a week. Monday night Allie and I went with Decker and Beckwith. Jo R- and Moses came from singing school with us, they both went off mad. Jo S- came to see me last Friday and I found I was mistaken when I wrote that to meet would be painfull to us both. We had a very pleasant visit never but once was I reminded that there was any difference in our meetings. I was plagueing him and he spoken so sorrofully and said "Dont plague me to night Mary. I have enough to bother me now". It sobered me in a minute and he spoke again, "Did I make you feel bad Mary? dont ,you are not to blame". I told him to forgive me but I forgot the past. He seemed so very gay then he spoke bitterly and said he truly had much to feel merry about to day. We all went over to Mr White's to dinner had a very nice dinner. To night I am writing while Ally is playing, feeling very lonesome if I am not mistaken because Jo dont (didnt?) come? She will feel different if I am not mistaken three years from now but I must practice. Good night.
It is some time since I have written but there has been a good deal of change in this short time since I wrote last. There has been a bridal and one who then was in the full enjoyment of health has sicknened and died. To morrow the grave will close over all that remans (remains) of Mrs Elenore Beebee. She leaves a large circle of friends to mourn her loss. Last night we were invited to Laura's. Unfair but it was postponed on account of Mrs Beebee's death. Singing school has comenced again and we have a lecture by Mr Gillet twice a week. Monday night Allie and I went with Decker and Beckwith. Jo R- and Moses came from singing school with us, they both went off mad. Jo S- came to see me last Friday and I found I was mistaken when I wrote that to meet would be painfull to us both. We had a very pleasant visit never but once was I reminded that there was any difference in our meetings. I was plagueing him and he spoken so sorrofully and said "Dont plague me to night Mary. I have enough to bother me now". It sobered me in a minute and he spoke again, "Did I make you feel bad Mary? dont ,you are not to blame". I told him to forgive me but I forgot the past. He seemed so very gay then he spoke bitterly and said he truly had much to feel merry about to day. We all went over to Mr White's to dinner had a very nice dinner. To night I am writing while Ally is playing, feeling very lonesome if I am not mistaken because Jo dont (didnt?) come? She will feel different if I am not mistaken three years from now but I must practice. Good night.
Friday, September 28, 2012
November 6th 1858
Sunday Nov 6th 1858
It is a week since I have written anything about my doings.
It has been a monotonous lonesome week. There has been nobody to see us but once
when Decker called. Moses is mad and of course Jo S- comes no more. I am almost
inclined to ask him to come again but I cannot but call it a weakness for such
a meeting could but be painful to us both. It would be doing him an injustice
that I would not do to him for I feel a greater friendship for him that anyone
else. Yet I can never be anything but a friend to him for I have a greater
duty to preform to my parents. I am their youngest and only remaining child and
I shall never marry without their free and full consent. Yet in the time I have
been with him I have learned to respect- I had almost said love him, though I
should not say that for I never did love.
Saturday, September 22, 2012
New Picture of Mary!
I just made an amazing discovery in my parent's basement! There had been a box of old family pictures down there that my grandparents had given to us. I knew they were there, but I did not have the appreciation for family history at the time to look at them. I decided to finally look through the box last night, and lo and behold! We happened to have a picture of Mary and even a picture of her daughter!
:) :)
Tuesday, September 18, 2012
October 31st 1858
Sunday Oct 31st 1858
Went to church all day and sung up stairs. I have not see Jo
since that eventfull night and I have got over feeling so very bad as I
did the next day. Moses has not been to see me. I am very glad I did not go to
the party. Whether he ever gets over being mad or not it makes no
difference to me. I guess he never did get over the slight to his dear L----?
Thursday, September 13, 2012
October 29th 1858
Friday Oct 29th 1858
I had agreed to go to George Halsey's to a surprise party to
night with Moses but I altered my mind and would not go whereupon Moses was
very angry. I suppose he thinks he made me feel very bad but thank
you, I don't care whether you are pleased
or not, Mr Cornell.
Editor’s Note: *Mary’s sister Josephine married Daniel
Halsey, possibly George’s brother.
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
October 17th 1858
Friday Oct 17th 1858
Saturday Allie and I went over to Dora’s, Josie was there to
meet us. We had a very pleasant visit. Sunday Josie and Dora came over to go to
church with us, went to the Methadice (Methodists) in the morning. In the
afternoon, listened to brother W-. In the evening, Harve came to see me. Allie and
Ma went to church. Had a very pleasant visit with him. To night Jo came to see me
and I told him to forget me or only remember me as a sister. May God forgive me
for the pain I caused him yet he forgave me all and we parted friends. I
felt bad and bitter. Bitter tears I shed that night. Tears of regret as I thought
of the past .May he be happy and may Our Heavenly Father deal gently with him.
Saturday, September 1, 2012
October 15th 1858
Friday Oct 15th 1858
Editor's note: * Her sister
** Moses
To day I have been at work all day and to night we all are
going up to *Carries. I think I can turn back to my last spring writings now but
I cannot with as free a conscience as I did then. December will tell if it is
not changed, still again will I wound where I would give but pleasure. Yet I
believe in spite of my faults I have many friends. May I always have as many. But
I am doing very wrong by giving **M- every reason to think I care a great deal
for him, when I do not care anything. I fear we shall not part friends.
Thursday, August 30, 2012
October 14th 1858
Thursday Oct 14th 1858
Editor's note: Agnes has the crush on Jo Smith. (...Its hard to keep up :) )
Monday night Allie and I went walking with Decker, went down
to Mr Beebee’s and back . Had a very pleasant . Tuesday, went down to Carrie’s
and Moses came to see me in the evening. He was quite angry with me because I
called Allie in (on?) Wednesday staid at home like good children and had no company.
Thursday, I went up to take my music lesson. Had a talk with Decker from the
third story. In the evening Decker came to see up (us) and Jo Smith stayed until one
o clock. We had a very nice little talk and I did get him to tell me some things
and if I could not get him to tell me all. I’ll remember Sammie and *Agnes.
I may stand in her way again if she makes remarks and as for Samie (Sammie)
when I get time, I’ll flirt with him to pay him off. It will do him good I’m
certain.
Editor's note: Agnes has the crush on Jo Smith. (...Its hard to keep up :) )
Monday, August 27, 2012
October 9th 1858
Saturday Oct 9th 1858
I feel very lonely to night. Why I know not ,for I have no
reason for feeling so. Tuesday night, Allie and I went out riding. Allie with Jo
R- and I with Jim H-, very much to my displeasure and it would have been still
more so if it had not been so very pleasant and we had White's horse and carriage so that I could take my ease, and I did not trouble
myself much about making myself agreeable. Wednesday, Jim and Decker came to see
us and went up to the Academy with us to look at the constellations. I had a
very nice little talk with Decker and shall remember his saving word? out at the
back door and talking with me some little while. Sunday evening Jo Smith called. I am not forgotten by any means I guess.
He comes to see me again Thursday.
Friday, August 24, 2012
Pictures of Mary's Diary
October 4th 1858
Oct 4th 1858 Home
Calls for the week: Monday night, Messers
Decker and Hopkins. Wednesday night, Decker and Quimby, Friday night,
Decker and Quimby besides Mr Decker coming twice home with Allie to
keep the rain off of her and Saturday, Jo R and Moses. To day Allie and
I went twice to church but was so sleepy we could not keep awake so
we took a nap in the afternoon. I shall remember Saturday night some
little time and all that was said on the sofa in the parlor. I have
written that some many time and in the last year will all of sceanes? be
remembered! My heart answeres they will and many times in the lapse of
years be they years of sorrow or of joy I will think of these happy sceans (scenes) in this my happy
girlhood home and of the many Sunday nights also. For always on the
quite (quiet) sabbath evening I think of the past and I always
silently thank my Heavenly Father for dealing so gently with so
wicked a creature as I. And for leaving her her earthly comforters, her
parents, while he takes away so many others. No one know that
beneath a careless exterior I hid(e) a warm and loving heart and those
that I I love dearly will Our Father in heaven guide me softly
through life and when I at last sleep my last sleep, may I join my
Brother in Heaven.
Editor's note: Her brother Elihu Wheeler Kirby died at 7 years of age in 1852. Mary was 13 years old.
Wednesday, August 22, 2012
October 3rd 1858
Oct 3rd 1858
How many times in this same year have I written of different
ones not in this book. Have I written so much. But in my memorandam I find dated
March 10th Jo Smith spent the evening, that is, staid until one of two
o clock. Ma is anxious? to know what we
find to talk about, he comes so much. March 11th Jo S- spent the afternoon
and evening with me I --- - horses had to stand out all day most but Jo had to
wait for some work that was done in the afternoon. March 12th Jo came
to see me to night. Spent the evening, had a very nice little talk. Libbie Hodges
and Harrison Otis? are trying to do something, I dont know what. But I do know
what makes Lib do so. She and Agnes are very much in love with Jo- . All fair play.
We will see who comes out ahead. If they do (all right). March 16th Jo
came home from singing school with me -- -- . March 30th Jo came home
from singing school with me. Marves? with Allie first. We tryed to get away from
them but could not, so came into the house and left them on the steps. They went
off a riding afterwards. Jo and I went riding thursday. He goes west to night.
Will not soon be forgotten by me. He has been sick which accounts for his not
coming to see me before. I shall not soon forget about Marves? wiping my eyes
for me while Jo was at the other side of the room and Allie plagueing him. But we both felt to (too) sober to laugh. While
I know that all winter was only a rehersal of similar things, now the same
things might be written of *Moses C-. While I care not for either of them, my
heart says it is wrong but I continue to do so.
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
Elihu Kirby House
This is the house that Mary grew up in. Elihu Kirby was her father, a shopkeeper in Henrietta. The house is believed to have been built around 1840. The picture was taken in 1930, so changes were probably made to it. Check out this link for more Elihu Kirby History. The original location for the house was on the corner of East Henrietta Road and Lehigh Station Road. It was moved in 1960 to Pittsford.
(isn't it pretty?)
September 28th 1858
Tuesday Home Sept 28th 1858
I have been thinking of other day(s) again tonight. How often do
my thoughts wander from the present to the past. I am ever thinking if I shall
ever be as innocent and happy as I was when a child. But I reproch myself for
saying so for have I not everything to make one happy that I can have but it is
ever thus. We are ever looking back on bygone happiness with regrets or forward
to some happier times yet to come ---- of thinking of the many happy day(s) now
with us .Much happier we be were we ever thankful for the happiness that is now
ours.
Monday, August 20, 2012
Harve Haseltine
I have been trying to find info on the names that Mary mentions often. The one that stands out most to me is the infamous Harve. Most of the info I have been able to find so far is on Harve's father Dr. Haseltine. (click the link for a bit a info).
Harve's full name is Harvey Brewster Haseltine. Harve married Sarah Louis Peck of Lima. They had 2 children Clara and McClary. McClary died soon after graduating medical school at the University of Pennsylvania.
Harve's full name is Harvey Brewster Haseltine. Harve married Sarah Louis Peck of Lima. They had 2 children Clara and McClary. McClary died soon after graduating medical school at the University of Pennsylvania.
September 27th 1858
Sept 27th 1858 Home
I am almost ---- how much have I changed in the last four years. Four years ago I was fifteen, bashfull and I believe a warm hearted gril (girl) knowing little of gentlemen. Indeed when any one did come to see me I relied on ---- to entertain them. A year had not passed over my head when I had a fear. I did not incourage him for I cared not for him, yet I know that if I had so willed I could have been his wife. A few months more and another paid me attention but he met with as little incouragement. Then the winter after I was seventeen I had another I flirted with him and dismissed him. The next summer there was two who paid attention to me. One I loved but I found out all of his affairs and I could no longer respect him. Therefore my love took wings so by mutual consent. We agreed to be friends nothing more and a friend to him I shall always be for he has been a good friend to me. The other one I respected and when one night he told me he loved me I told him I loved him as a brother and asked him to let me be his sister again. In the fall I flirted desperately with another. I have wronged him more than anyone else for I was never frank with him and I have carried it so far I know not how to rilease myself yet it must be done for I love him not and my dear parents would not consent. I am their young (youngest) and last. I must not give them cause for sorrow on any account. Yet again at the same time another told me he loved me but I have no cause for regrets there for I did not encourage him. Last Friday night another told me though (thought) a great deal of me and said he feared I loved many others better than I did him. But he could not help saying I was very dear to him. I told him and I spoke truely that I did not love anyone of those he mentioned. May I be forgiven if I have done wrong and I repeat to myself on how few of our days can we look without many regrets.
Saturday, August 18, 2012
September 26th 1858
Sept 26th 1858 Home
Once again after a long silence do I seat myself to commune
with my old friend my Diary. I have wandered far away since I wrote last in
these pages from my Home. Uncle Kirby gave me a invitation to accompany him and
Allie down east so I have been to New York, Chatham? Canan? New Lebanon ---
---- had a very pleasant time but was glad to get back again. The Wednesday
after we came back attended a suffolk School picnic at the Fair ground. Had a
very pleasant time. Messers Decker, Hopkins and Mac Manns? spent the day talking
to Allie and I. Two of them very pleasant fellows but J- and M- were very angry
because we talked to them. But the next week we went down to the fair and
finally induced them to recover their tempers so they waited on us altogether.
Friday evening they came and asked us to attend Poters? Lecture before the
teachers Association. Were very pleasant. I shall sometime remember what was said
after we came home. Yet I cannot think of them but with regret for well do I
feel my wickedness in doing as I do. I care not for the feeling of others at
least I trifle with them for I do care for them for I regret it. Poor J- and M-
I care not for either of you. Again will I give pain when I would give nought
but pleasure. I will long remember our quarrell and what was said afterwards. I
told nothing but the truth for I do not care anything for Jo Smith. Always have
I regreted it when I flirted with anyone. Why do I still continue to do so? I
resolve now I will not do it again.
[After four years
have elapsed I find myself doing the same thing I fear 1862 Jan]
Friday, August 17, 2012
July 25th 1858
July 25th 1858 Home
Once again have I looked over my Diary but it does not seem
to progress very rapidly for while I should be writing, I am looking over what I
have written before. So I have made a great many good promises of writing
some every day but I am very much afraid I shall not do so, I have been thinking
of the good times we had last winter of the night down to Tattles? Where I
danced til about three and then Jo made me promise not to dance any more and
Jo’s going back to dance another set when Allie Morse? of and I went
together and the night us four went over to Carries. I guess? I shant soon
forget the buffalo skin ---- And again the night over to Pittsford and West
Henrietta and the flirtation, I carried on down to Russells and my talk over to Quimby’s with the fellow that
did not bring any girl, and two or three nights down to Helen Pikes room and one
down to Anna Keyes, and the night we went serenading when we scared one young
man so bad and the many many pleasant nights at singing school when somebody
always came home with me. But I must write some letters so leaving the many pleasant remembrances called up I go
to do my duty.
Wednesday, August 15, 2012
June 20th 1858
June 20th 1858 Sunday evening
At ease ---- I sit down to write in my Diary. Looking back I see Monday Aug 10th ---- Bell and I went up to the store scarce six months passed and she was laid in the silent tomb. I shall always remember her as one of the dearest friends of my youth. Poor Bell. But seventeen, handsome and talented you were taken away from us. It seems sad that one so young with all the hopes and aspirations of youth. Why was it that Our Heavenly Father took you now. Yet we should not ---- for we ----- be sure it is all for the best for He seeth not as we see.
At ease ---- I sit down to write in my Diary. Looking back I see Monday Aug 10th ---- Bell and I went up to the store scarce six months passed and she was laid in the silent tomb. I shall always remember her as one of the dearest friends of my youth. Poor Bell. But seventeen, handsome and talented you were taken away from us. It seems sad that one so young with all the hopes and aspirations of youth. Why was it that Our Heavenly Father took you now. Yet we should not ---- for we ----- be sure it is all for the best for He seeth not as we see.
May 31st 1858
May 31st 1858 Henrietta Monday
The daylight has dawned and faded and I have again sit me
down to wrote “----- Forget” yet I cannot add “et non forget” for time surely
seemes to be a winged thing? which we cannot hold. I have been looking over my
past writings tonight and I smile at my folly of a year ago. While I resolve to
learn wisdom from the past to guide my future life yet still I wonder if in
another year I will not be s—ling after this years folly. It is even thus we
think we learn every year to be wiser than we were
the last year yet I question if it would not be better if I were the
unsuspecting girl of last. I know this has been a great change in me in one
little short year, one year ago I gazed on everything through a rose tinted
glass now I have learned to know things as they are! What has made this change
the part? will tell. I have been tempted to tear out some of the leaves of my
Diary, But have firmly resolved to let them remain as they are, truthfull and
it is only myself I can blame. Lo they shall remain so that if I ever am tempted
to fall into similar folly a glance over these pages will save me.
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
May 13th 1858
Henrietta May 1858 13th
I
have been looking over what I have written in times gone by today, the first
time for many months. Months which have brought joy and sorrow, joy for I
have made many new acquaintances that I have learned to like. Some of them very
much. Sorrow for in them I have lost two of my little nieces. Poor little Carrie
and Lizzie. Do I wonder that I can but sit and look out of my chamber window and
grow sad very very sad. Memory, fond memory loves to linger around
those day’s when they sported in infancy glad and gay, and made the household
glad and bright with their artless prattle and sunny laughter. It lingers around
those dark dark day’s when we saw the rosy lifes grow pale, the lily
upon the snowy? brow grow pailer and more heavenly beneath the sunny hair. We
felt and knew that they must die. Oh those were dark dark days. We saw them place them in the little coffin. W---- their once
buoyant forms in pure muslin and place the evergreen chaplet on their
marble brows as if by their loved flowers we might call them back to life
again. Then sadly we laid them to rest in the quite (quiet) graveyard. The
winters snow falls lightly upon their pillow. The summers rain weeps over them
But as we weep where we saw them resting in death embrace saw them lade in
their final resting place The form we once so loved caresses us [no more] no
many laughter ! No childish loving niece salutes us! Where rests the baby
now? Cannot she hear us: Nay a niece? Oftentimes comes to us from the golden
clouds at sunset and whispers softly “They have passed the dark waters of death.
They have glided down its, blue, deep, waves in the swift canoe to the spirit
land!” The firefly? Dances and the pale flower blossoms where once they sported
They remain but the fair haired
children who sported with them passed away! No longer they gather the spring
flowers. But they have gone to another brighter better land! Where no
sorrow comes! Where the flowers never fade. Where comes no slowing days or
fitful winds sighing mournfully for faded joys. Where no tears ever flow. Where
all is beautifull and bring and happy There, There! dweleth in joy those little
ones you loved That once loved you would ye call them back “Mourn
not for the child from thy tenderness? Ere stain on its purity fell, To thy questioning heart Lo one answer from heaven Is it
well with the child! It is well”
August 11th 1857
Thursday Aug 11th 1857
I sit in my chamber that faces the oriental east the sun
frost guilds as he rises from his early couch. The tall? locusts? sigh and moan
fitfully in the dusky shades of gathering evetide and the sky is overcast with
dark clouds. Without is gloom and mist. Within my breast throbs a sad heart swept
by the fingers of the mighty past and as she casts her wand before me there
rises the wind like form of other days with all thin --- joys and well remembered griefs. While each in chorus seems to say
we bring but the memory of one short year of a twelve month quickly passed we
gather around you and bid you look from the present to the past within this
same window? And form resolves for the future look back only a year. I cover my
eyes. I cant recall so many smiles and tears. Then there comes another picture.
--- March with her childlike --- of boisterous winds and balmy zephyrs. Her
sunny morning clear --- and cloudy nights and I am sitting at the window
writing. Sometimes the tears drop on the paper for I am oppressed with fears. I
am writing to one that then was very dear and gave me no cause to doubt his
sincerity. Yet I am very sad as if coming events has cast their shadows darkly
before them. In a little and for a
little while I again was blessed and happy then came the shock and we who once
loved so fondly parted and the waters of mistrust arose and divided us and
swallowed up our love and confidence. Oh bitterer waters ? stores? of bitter
March on the shores of that dark gulf we both stand. Looking wistfully across longing again to be together
sometimes the waters secead till there almost seems to be no gulf. Then some
unfriendly hand touches anew the rock where dwells that hidden fountain then
anew it gushes forth. In rain I stretch out my arms to cry, forgive, forget.
Pride strikes them down again. And upsets the tiny boat ladened with
forgiveness. And while I stand there half in tears I was softly beckoned away
and ere I had wiped my tears I felt a manly arm around me which clasped me
closely to his heart left on my lips warm kisses, wiped away my tears, and
whispered to my heart the fondest words of love and hope, Then I laid my
head down softly on that shoulder to dream a wild a thrilling dream of
happiness and he murmured very softly as his eyes sought mine My Sister Dear.
But ere its first extacy had passed I awoke and again I stood alone weary
smiles? had sepperated as And I was left again in doubt. On how few days of our
lives can we look with entire satisfaction. On how few without many regrets. I regretted also those few short hours of
love and joy And as I soon think of them I would
rather exchange those hours of thrilling extacy for the more tranquil quiet
enjoyment of mere friends. For now that I have drank of that cup of joy how
doubly weary seems the hours that slowly pass setting doubts and fears in firm
reality that it was all a dream that shall never know a happy realization.
All a dream. How like a knell it sounds to remind me that the world is
sometimes false and fickle and that no tears of regret no smiles for its
return? can ever recall it And again I returned to the home of my childhood and
sat again after very short wanderings in this same window and pondered deeply
in my heart for I again had given sorrow where I fain would have awoke joy. I
had refused the hand of one. He was noble and good yet I could not mock with bestowal of my hand what the heart
could in no wise sanction. And so I sadly bade him forget. Oh I am blessed with
love and friendship Why may I not rest all my hopes in heaven and live a happy
blissful pilgrimage yes I am far from the --- of discordant. hate and enviousness
And yet I feel as if something was wanting
August 10th 1857
Monday Aug 10th 1857
Bell Richardson came to call on me this morning and I went
with her to send a circulur to Charlie Lindsay. Harve directed it for her and I
had a very pleasant talk with him. He was pleased but showed no disposision to
be anything but friendly. I went over to Joseys ? to tea. Sarah Calkins came in
and we had a very pleasant talk. I am friends with All the world now. Although I am not so happy as I was three
or four weeks ago for causes I will not explain here but in after years may I
remember it and learn wisdom from my foolishness. I know it to be foolish but
cannot help it at once. On how few days of our lives can we look with future
satisfaction. On how few without many regrets. I regretted also those few short
hours of love and joy And as I now think of them I would rather exchange those
hours of thrilling extacy for the mere tranquil quite enjoyment of mere
friendship.
August 9th 1857
Sunday Aug 9th 1857
Again hath w--- the blessed sabbath day the farmer hath left
the fields of r--- grain his flocks and herds and now sits in the shady porch
to read the lesson of the day. Nature seemes to have grown still and only
breaths in softest sighs. We went to church listen to a sermon by S. W. Struter
and a very good one. After tea I dressed myself as Harve told me he would come to
see me but like all men he was false. I
am not subject to the blues yet I had a severe attack this evening. But I said
away with melancholy and musing? ore blighted
hopes as I realy wanted to see him very much. I wonder if Millie S. told me the
truth and he is realy engaged to Sarah P. and hes been with so many others. I
can hardly believe he is so deceitful so I will say “Let us think of a man as
we find him” and trust him still although I would wish he did not go to see
Sarah but I will hope for a better time coming
August 8th 1857
Saturday Aug 8th 1857
Bright sunny yet cool morning. How busy we all are. Fingers
keep time with the happiness of our hearts this afternoon. Harve walked some
with me from the store. We spent a most delightful hour of ‘sly’
flirtation all to be forgotten in a day. Mayhap their memories may linger a
w---, All this is not what my soul panteth for. It cannot satisfy the longing
of my heart to be loved. Flirtations are an empty farce, a romance which for a
moment delights, then leaves an empty, unfilled aching void. Sweetmeats
which for a moment in the month are most pleasing but afterwards bring regrets.
[I realise it more than ever now. Jan 1st 1862]
August 8th, 1856
My Diary
August 8th 1856- Henrietta
Were circumstances different, I would have commenced in the
first of the month. But in anticipation of a happy time of many hours not all
misspent, I have seated myself to trace the very incidents which have first
occurred, lasting though faulty it be in many respects yet truthfully describing
every little incident of joy or sorrow pleasure or pain. I may in future time
read oer their pages learning from my former folly. Future wisdom, living oer
again past joys and days long fled. Recalling many a half forgoten ----- thin
fading from memory’s page. I may softly guild life's path with a sweet memory of
“joys that we’ve tasted” and chase away the gathering mists of snow with smiles
of other days with thoughts like there past and future softly blending. I
dedicate my Diary.
To Memories of other days,
Mary E. Kirby
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